Life has brought big changes on our sweet boy and he now has the very important title of Big Brother!
It's a big job, a life-changing job, but a job Hamp was born for. I would say he loved her from the moment she became "his."
He is so intrigued by her. After five weeks, he still loves to look at her. He loves to hold her. Hamp will sit on the couch, grab the boppy, and say "Ayee Kole right here." He laughs at every little noise or movement she makes. He loves to pet her hair and say "soft." Most of the time he gets the concept of being gentle but sometimes he has to be reminded. We feel fortunate that she has only been poked in the eye once and kicked in the head once…bless her. And all of those not so gentle "love pats" she gets well our tough girl doesn't even make a peep. But all of this is to be expected from our wild man.
He really is a sweet helper too. He loves to get mommy a diaper, give sister her paci, or help push her stroller.
My favorite part is watching him give her love. He runs to her cradle to give her a goodbye kiss every morning and it melts me! I would say he's loving his new role as big brother!
This new big brother job has also been tough…for mommy and daddy that is.
As I've mentioned before, the so called "terrible twos" hit our house before Ally Kole arrived but after she arrived well things just got a little more challenging. In the last few weeks of my pregnancy, I got emotional about having to share my attention between two children. I wondered would Hampton understand, would he think I don't love him anymore, would he be mad at me etc. It was a flood of emotions and a little overwhelming but Kole and I had been praying about this transition long before it ever happened and the Lord really gave me a peace about it. Well the transition time is here and as much as I tried to prepare myself for how hard it would be, some days are simply harder than I imagined. (I just love this picture…mismatched pi's, a sideways construction hat and his blower…perfectly adorable!)
When you're pregnant everyone tells you "oh your life is about to change." No one really says oh you just wait until the toddler years hit. The toddler years are hard…really really hard. Hamp was whiney and hard headed before Ally Kole arrived. But after she arrived, full out meltdowns occurred and usually over the smallest things. I just didn't understand it and some days I thought I might not survive the whining. I'm talking meltdowns at home, meltdowns in the middle of restaurants, and yes meltdowns in the middle of the driveway...
Yes, sometimes I have to turn my head and laugh…so very dramatic! But sometimes I want to cry. It was really important to us to be sure we took special time with Hampton once Ally Kole arrived. But obviously a newborn takes up a lot of attention and Hamp tries to get our full attention in ALL the wrong ways. What has been hard for me, is that I want to play with him and love on him but some days it seems like all I do is get on to him. And trying to figure out how to handle this phase in order to teach him it is not okay to act like that, be disrespectful or disobey well it is just exhausting. Spank/don't spank, time-out, ignore it etc…it's all draining trying to figure out what works or doesn't. I've come to realize there isn't any perfect solution, you just have to work through it.
Parenting is tough. We all want to be the BEST parents and we all want to do the RIGHT thing. It would be great if everyday was easy and fun but the fact is that they are kids and they learn as they grow. It is our job to teach them through these tough phases. When I sit back and really look at it, there are far more happy and fun times together than the meltdowns and tears...
So right now we take each day and meltdown as it comes. I would say Hamp is doing better but he is still learning. And mommy and daddy are working closely with Jesus to take deep breaths and have patience. ; )
I'm kidding…not really. I know this phase will pass and until then, we encourage each other on those tough days and we pray A LOT! We also really soak up the happy and fun moments…
Parenting is one of the toughest jobs but it is a job that is a gift. I know God wouldn't have given us this job if we couldn't handle it. As long as we continue to seek His guidance, I know we are on the right track. It's not always going to be easy but I think it is so important to work on it together, encourage and lift each other up and most of all enjoy ALL the moments…soaking up the sweet ones and finding a way to laugh through the challenging ones.
Most importantly, give them lots and lots of love, hugs and kisses…which is impossible not to do when they are this adorable.
So I am choosing to take on this tough job each day with a thankful heart…thankful for the blessing of this job and thankful for every moment I get to be their mommy.